On The Wedding, Six Months Out

Well, Shawn and I have been married for just over six months. We just got our wedding album back from the worlds best photographer, Kelly Redinger, and it’s absolutely gorgeous! Between the album itself and the beautiful box it came in, it weighs close to ten pounds, and it’s worth every ounce!

Seeing the photos in glorious size, on pearl finished paper, made me want to relive the day in my head as much as possible. All the other things in our life having been going at near warp speed, and it sometimes feels like we didn’t get a chance to properly absorb the day. We had several family gatherings the day after (that I did not want to attend; I was more keen to spend some quality alone time with my new husband), and we left the following day for our vacation. Couple that with my pregnancy woes starting before we were even off the cruise ship in our second week, and things have been very much a blur.

A lot of people, particularly those in the midst of planning their own weddings, have asked me what I would do differently. The list isn’t a long one, especially compared to some other, bridezilla types that I know, but here’s a round up anyway:

We did not have a DJ. Neither of us are particularly fond of DJs, and the music that they play, for the most part, does not mesh with our style. We also didn’t have the money in our budget for someone of real quality, so we opted to do all the music ourselves and just do an iPod playlist. I don’t great doing this in the least. It worked out wonderfully, people were dancing most of there night, and we got a good variety of songs going. What I regret is leaving the finalizing of said playlist so late in the game, and not having the time to put the songs in any type of order. We ended up just putting the iPod on shuffle and letting it do it’s thing. Yes, it worked out, but there were songs that we wanted to hear that never came on. It probably didn’t help that we had over eleven hours of music on the list, but we are not good at narrowing things down.

Next, our emcee. I love my sister in law to death, but she didn’t really seem in to the job. She pretty much read what I emailed her verbatim, and it sounded totally unprepared and unenthusiastic. I totally get it: she was five months pregnant at the time, had just moved in to a new house and her fiancé didn’t end up making it to the wedding. Naturally, she was in a bit of a bad mood (I was unaware of this until my wedding planner told me about a conversation they had in which she admitted to being pregnant and bitchy.) If I would have known that she was going to be that unenthusiastic, I probably would have found someone else to do the job. Again, this isn’t anything against my sister in law, it’s just not what I was hoping for.

I definitely would have been more insistent that guests participate in the D20 kissing game we came up with instead of the traditional glass clinking nonsense. It would have gotten a lot more people involved in the festivities, and I don’t think that guests were aware that this was, in fact, the only way to either get us to kiss or have a chance to tell a story. I put a lot of work in to the action cards and in to making sure there was a little something for everyone, and it barely got used. It was kind of a bummer.

Probably the last thing would have been the photo booth. It was amazing fun, and the pictures and stop motion video we got out of it are priceless. I didn’t go in it enough, though. I would have made time to go in the booth more often and with more guests. It really is true that you get caught up in everything that’s going on, and you miss some great opportunities. I don’t have a single shot of me and our fabulous wedding planner, Jordan, either, and that is not cool.

Everything else went off as well as I could have hoped for. The venue, for both ceremony and reception, were perfect. Dinner was spectacular. I have honestly never had wedding fare that tasted that good. All of the vendors that we dealt with we’re amazing, starting with hair and make up in the morning and ending with the hot dog truck at night. I don’t regret getting a planner/coordinator in the slightest. It was a brilliant plan, and it made the day feel smooth like butter.

Obviously, there are things we would have added or elaborated on if the budget had a been unlimited, but we had a hell of a day with what we had. I proved all the skeptics wrong, and that as severely satisfying. There were some people, right up until the day of, who could not see how comic books, video games, cartoons and vintage would turn in to a cohesive event. Shawn and I knew our vision was a great one, but there will always be naysayers especially when it comes to a wedding. After all, for things like that, everyone knows better than you 😉

Since the big day, we’ve gotten some attention for our unique party. Off Beat Bride featured us on their main page, which was awesome for me because that site was a lifesaver during the planning process. The boutique where I got. MY gown actually called me one of their coolest brides ever. They do a lot of business, so that was also awesome.

When mum and I paid Jordan and Kelsey of Atmosphere Wedding planning a visit several days ago! they told us that our wedding was the most popular from the last year. I guess they judge these things by how many new clients bring in pictures from a particular wedding, and we are in the lead. I have such a hard time believing that, but why would they lie? The thought of people bringing pictures of my wedding in with elements that they want to steal circled is mind boggling, and it makes me a little giddy. There are also two photos from our wedding up in the new Atmosphere office: one of me leaning against a wall looking all purdy, and one of Shawn and I walking away from an airplane at the museum (it’s super spectacular and one of our favourites). that one is also featured in the main slide show on their new website, and a bunch of other ones are featured under the vintage tab of “Our Work”. I was so in love with our wedding, I just never imagined that so many others would be in love with it too.

I like the fact the brides and grooms see the picture of our Adventure Time cake and decide they want to do something more fun Than white with flowers. I love that people can see our venue for the amazing space that it is, and that they’re actually requesting to see it because of what we managed to do there. I also love that Jordan is recommending my make up artist to new brides now. Chelsea is so so good,and. Any new business that I helped throw her way is great.

We got another surprise in my Facebook feed this week in the form of one of our photos placing in a competition Kelly entered it in! The “wizard” photo from the ends of the night placed 15th over all in a competition (I’m not sure which one) that had a pure art category. How zazzy is that? Our shots were so fun, and they tuned out so we’ll, that im glad the accolades are rolling in.

Our wedding was pretty damn perfect. Not a lot of brides come away from the day saying that, and I am well pleased to be one of them. Not only did we get a perfect wedding, I got a damn fine husband out of the deal, too. I’m one lucky gal.


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